Drowned in everyday life, do you regret that sweet moments with your partner have long been stuck between the shopping list and the children’s homework? Florentine d’Aulnois Wang, couple therapist recently shared a tip to rekindle the flame: by using the networks.
A safe place to talk about love again…
The expert in romantic relationships encourages couples to create a “love channel” or “love channel”. Either “an exchange thread only for the very sweet and the hot between you“. Whether on Messenger, WhatsApp, Telegram, Instagram… this should then serve to bring you closer together. No more reproaches, the request to bring bread on the way home, or “did you pay the electricity bill?”. On this channel, only sweet words, marks of desire, or memories that bring you closer are allowed.
According to Florentine d’Aulnois Wang, this simple “safe place” dedicated to the couple serves as a reminder of the emotional connection, especially when the period can be tense.
“The moments when things shake a little in the couple, the moments when you lose the sense of connection, you reread this love exchange and you recharge the batteries because you know that between you, there is that”, explains the therapist.
…Or one more box to check to be happy together?
Among the many Whatsapp groups and messaging services, creating a discussion dedicated to love seems a simple solution to put into practice. Psychologist Amélie Boukhobza sees this as an opportunity to create an intimate bubble, far from the emergencies of everyday life.
“which should please many….in theory” .
But behind the rather charming idea, there may be another reality.
“For other couples, it can quickly become an additional burden: a channel to feed, an expectation to always ‘remember to send a little note’, a constant reminder that the couple must be taken care of like a green plant. What if we forget? Desire is dead? Does love fade away?”
she asks.
Setting up a “two-person” channel to do each other good is therefore more a question of play than of necessity. “What matters is not so much the channel. That’s what we put in it. If it remains a place of play, without obligation or pressure, why not… If it becomes an additional task, perhaps something else needs to be explored.” underlines the psychologist.
According to her, more than fueling a virtual discussion, the real “channel love” lies in everyday life. And our way of interacting as a couple. “It’s a hello in the morning, a look in the evening, a ‘good night’… It’s sharing every day, not a digital marital duty. These are times dedicated to the couple apart from the rest in which you have to invest. It’s an attention, a tender gesture.” Attentions that are often worth more than a heart emoji that you send from your keyboard.