The first sexual intercourse remains surrounded by many preconceived ideas, often a source of anxiety. A video published on Instagram by Olivier Marpeau, gynecological surgeon known as mon.gyneco, addresses these questions with precise explanations on the hymen, pain and bleeding. Between persistent myths and anatomical realities, many wonder about what really happens during first vaginal penetration.
An anatomical reality far from received ideas
The hymen is often described as a barrier that ruptures during first intercourse. A largely simplified vision. As the expert reminds us in the video, “the hymen is a membrane which partly closes the entrance to the vagina and which is very close to the entrance to the vagina“.
Its structure varies from person to person. Some women have a very flexible hymen, already partially open, while others have a thicker membrane. This diversity explains why the experience can be very different from one case to another.
Contrary to popular belief, there is not necessarily a clear or visible break. This membrane is often extensible and can simply stretch or change without causing marked pain.
Pain during first sexual intercourse: a question of context
The question often comes up: is pain inevitable? The answer is nuanced. As Dr. Marpeau explains, “normally, this membrane is thin, it is fragile, not too thick“.
In reality, specialists agree on one point: pain rarely depends solely on the hymen. Stress, fear or a lack of preparation play a determining role. Involuntary muscle contraction can make penetration difficult and uncomfortable.
In some cases, discomfort or slight pain may occur. The expert also specifies that “even if you are very careful, it can cause a little pain and bleeding“.
Bleeding, often feared, is not systematic. When they do occur, they may also be linked to irritation or too rapid penetration rather than the hymen itself.
Virginity and hymen, a link widely questioned
Associating the hymen with virginity remains a very entrenched idea. However, the scientific reality is very different. Some women are born without a hymen, others keep it intact despite regular sexual intercourse.
This variability makes any reliable interpretation based on this membrane alone impossible. The hymen is neither proof nor a universal indicator.
In rare situations, a particularly thick or closed hymen can hinder penetration. In this specific case, a medical consultation makes it possible to assess the situation and, if necessary, to propose a suitable solution.