Far from a refusal of commitment, the celicouple is based on a simple but powerful idea : maintain your independence while cultivating a real relationship. The term was born from the contraction between “single” and “couple”and is aimed at young people as well as people in their forties and fifties. According to INED, these are also
45-65 year olds who practice this lifestyle the mostfar ahead of thirty-year-olds who are still very attached to life together.
Why some couples choose to live apart
The need for air, but not for love. This is, in short, what motivates many couples to try the celicouple. There psychologist Johanna Rozenblumquestioned on the subject, observes a growing phenomenon in her consultations:
“There is undoubtedly in this choice the fear of losing one’s independence in the couple or a desire to regain it..
In other words, this lifestyle can be:
- THE reflection of a past marital experience
difficult ; - A response to a need for personal space;
- A way of reinvent life togetherfar from permanent fusion.
The profiles concerned are varied: former parental couples, confident introverts, chronic independents or even fans of slow love.
Living separately to love each other better: the advantages of the celicouple
This loving model can offer a unprecedented emotional stabilityprovided that both partners are aligned on their expectations. Among the benefits often cited:
- Preserve your freedom without renouncing attachment;
- Reduce everyday tensions (housekeeping, rhythms, intimacy);
- Revive the desirethanks to reunions chosen and not suffered.
Johanna Rozenblum emphasizes:
“Lovers learn not to burden each other with all their little quirks. This allows us to keep the good times and respect everyone’s need for solitude.”.
And for many, it is the key to a lasting balancefar from the friction of continuous life as a couple.
A model that does not suit everyone
Like any unconventional approach, the celicouple has its limits. He asks lots of communication, trust and clarity. And if it is adopted to escape intimacy or avoid responsibilities, it can become a relationship trap.
Johanna Rozenblum warns:
“Its limit is that this independence becomes a new living environment, which no longer allows the couple to flourish.“.
The right dosage is therefore essential. This way of life should not be a leakbut a real choicecarefully discussed, shared and adjusted according to everyone’s needs.
If the celicouple is increasingly attractive, it is because it embodies a new way of understanding love
: freer, more flexible, but no less committed.