It’s a fact, often confirmed by Science, but also by your groups of friends: vacations are often rich in romantic encounters. Summer is, it is true, a privileged time, when we get out of our routine and “let ourselves go”. Long evenings, sunsets on the beach, outdoor activities: so many opportunities to meet new people, and why not, fall into their arms. But why are we profoundly more inclined to meet people during the summer holidays? Couldn’t this state of mind be maintained throughout the rest of the year? Amélie Boukhobza’s explanations.
Freed from constraints, amorous desire returns at a gallop
Once the notifications are deactivated, the files are put away and the children are dropped off with the grandparents: we quickly find ourselves with the feeling of being 15 years old again. In fact, all it takes is a scooter ride through the streets of Amalfi and a day without constraints for us to find ourselves flirting again. A carefreeness, and an incredible feeling of freedom, which can be explained.
“It’s a classic! All year round, we have “no time”, we swipe without believing it. Always the same faces. Fed up. And then on vacation… suddenly, everything changes. Far from everyday life, from work, from injunctions, we are more relaxed, less in control. And above all: we are available mentally, emotionally, physically. Result? We want to reach out to others more”confides Amélie Boukhobza.
On vacation, flirting doesn’t commit anything
On vacation, we are more lenient with ourselves, we let go more easily.
“And when we pick up, the unexpected finds its place more easily. We put things off less until tomorrow. We find ourselves saying: “come on, why not”. We try, without thinking too much about the result. Because, here and now, this flirting does not commit anything. We allow ourselves to look. To smile. To speak. And perhaps… to feel,” continues the expert.
However, we do not strictly speaking become another person.
“Rather, we find a version of ourselves that we had put on hold. A slightly livelier version. A little more curious. And above all: a little more free. Which is often enough to make a meeting possible…”concludes Amélie Boukhobza.