According to an online survey conducted by Pagegroup between October and November 2018 with 1,097 people, 26% of employees indicate that they have considered a romantic relationship at work. 62% have taken the plunge and 38% are still in a relationship with the said person. According to another study carried out by Hello Work in 2022, almost 75 % of employees (3 out of 4) have already experienced a romantic relationship with a colleague. However, it is clear that living a love story in a professional setting is not simple.
Pitfalls to avoid in the event of a relationship with a colleague
The media specializing in well-being Verywellmind has identified three errors not to be made when we live a love story with a work colleague.
Start a relationship without assessing it
The first thing to do before embarking on a romantic relationship with a colleague is to wonder if the game is really worth the candle. Because the situation can become extremely delicate if you realize that one is not made for each other. It is then essential to consider the consequences it could have on your mental health. Could a colleague compromise your career? Complete your relationships with your hierarchy?
Engage too quickly in the relationship
Given the risks inherent in this type of relationship, it is preferable not to embark too hastily in a love adventure. And for good reason, at the beginning of a relationship, each generally shows the best version of himself. But, over time, we discover the real character traits, values and habits of each. A premature commitment can therefore be based on an illusion.
Do not stay professional
When you maintain a romantic relationship with a colleague, it is essential to define clear limits not to exceed. The priority is to remain professional. “”It is possible to maintain your professionalism at work while attending someone as long as you have the emotional stability and the resilience necessary to manage a breakup “explains Frank Thewes, LCSW, therapist and owner of Path Forward Therapy. “”If one of the two partners fails to manage this situation, it may be time to reconsider the relationship “. It is therefore essential to refrain from kissing, cuddling or having intimate conversations at work. Clearly, to establish a clear separation between private and professional life.