On the occasion of International Women’s Day, a sexual practice is becoming more and more talked about: queening. Promoted by JOYclub, this position – also called facesitting – places the woman in control of her own pleasure. In this posture where she sits on her partner’s face, she controls the movements, pressure and rhythm. Queening appears as a concrete symbol of reappropriation of the body and female enjoyment!
Queening and facesitting, a practice that reverses the roles
Literally, “queening” means “to act like a queen”. And the symbolism is explicit. The woman places herself above, directs and decides. The partner, lying on his back, serves his pleasure. She adjusts the pressure, chooses the angle, imposes her rhythm, speeds up or slows down according to her sensations.
This dynamic shakes up the classic patterns where the man is often considered active and the woman as passive. Here, the roles are reversed. Control changes sides, sometimes without a word, simply by the movement of the body.
The practice concerns both heterosexual and lesbian couples. It can be practiced facing the partner, to maintain eye contact, or with your back to them, to modify the sensations and provoke an even more intense abandonment.
Among the most widespread variants:
- Tender facesitting: the partner retains freedom of movement and can stimulate other erogenous zones;
- Intense facesitting: with a more marked restriction of movements;
- Reverse facesitting: back to the partner;
- Dressed facesitting: the texture of the fabric becomes an element of the game;
- Facesitting with bondage: combined with attachments to immobilize the person lying down.
Why is queening attracting more and more women?
The growing attraction for this practice is primarily due to the total control of pleasure. Unlike other situations where the woman receives stimulation, here she becomes an actor of her sensations. It precisely adjusts the pressure and angle needed, which can make orgasm easier.
This control also creates a paradoxical letting go. No longer having to guide your partner, no longer wondering if they are doing “right”, allows you to concentrate only on your sensations. Obviously, the practice is also based on strong mutual trust. The partner accepts a position of vulnerability, which can enhance intimacy.
For some women, queening also helps overcome the discomfort associated with cunnilingus. In a dominant position, they fully assume their body and their desire, without focusing on the gaze of the other.
Orgasm gap, supporting figures, why female pleasure remains unequal
The question of female pleasure is not just a matter of feeling. It is documented by scientific studies. A study published in 2024 in the journal Sexual Medicineconducted among 24,752 American participants, indicates that men reach orgasm in 70 to 85 percent of sexual encounters, compared to 46 to 58 percent for women. The gap therefore varies between 22 and 30 points.
Another study, involving 52,588 participants, shows that 95% of heterosexual men report reaching orgasm during intercourse, compared to 65% of heterosexual women.
Notable fact: lesbian women reach orgasm in 86% of cases. These figures suggest that sexual practices mainly focused on penetration can explain part of this gap.
In this context, practices such as queening place clitoral stimulation and female pleasure at the center of the sexual act.
Approaching it as a couple: the key points
Addressing queening in a couple relies first on communication. Certain basic rules are essential:
- Express your desire;
- Listen to any apprehensions;
- Define boundaries.
You can start gently, test different positions and establish a simple signal to take a break can also reassure partners and promote a consensual and peaceful experience.