Couples, at the start of their relationship, are experiencing a passionate phase, which is generally described as “honeymoon”. But after a few years of common life, it is not uncommon for passion to dull. To relaunch the flame, a study suggests a particular activity.
The trip, a passion engine in the torque
Traveling for two would not only be beneficial for escape. According to a study, these escapades would strengthen passion and complicity in the couple. A study published in Annals of Tourism Research Empirical Insights reveals that a vacation devoted to leisure time once or twice a year with its partner promote personal development and romantic passion. Researchers specify: “We have found that couples who do more new, interesting, stimulating and exciting things together during the holidays, report a greater romantic passion and greater physical intimacy after the end of the holidays”.
These activities do not need to be expensive or complex, but “interesting, adventurous, romantic and funny“Detail the researchers again.
Prepare the trip … and the couple
For Marie-Soleil Cordeau, coach in love success, we must not be limited to the logistical organization.
“We must not restrict the preparation for the logistics of the trip. It is important to prepare for the trip as a couple because the trip will put the skills of the couple to the test, in particular in terms of communication. What I recommend is that each partner draws up a list of their expectations, of their needs, of how it would like it to happen. Then, everyone presents their list. So that my trip is successful, what do I need? “.
She also advises to anticipate the return. “”The return to reality can be brutal. What we lived on a trip was intense, we were in a bubble of intimacy with our partner and on the return, we find all the spheres of our life and necessarily, there is less time in couple. Some will appreciate finding these different spheres, others will find it more difficult. Why not take the opportunity to add more pleasure in daily life? “
Challenges and adjustments after the trip
The coach also warns against an too ideal vision. “”A long journey is like any event in life, it can bring or remove partners. It depends on several factors. On a trip, despite the best planning, we are likely to experience stressful events, whether in terms of travel, reservations, communications with the country’s inhabitants, the country’s culture, weather, diseases … “
For her, the key lies in the dialogue. “”Have an open, fluid, authentic and benevolent communication. It is the responsibility of each partner to express their needs and moments of discomfort and to do so in a respectful way. And the other must have the capacity to welcome them with opening ” she concludes.