Denitsa Ikonomova and François Alu are among those couples that make you dream: young, beautiful, love and talented. However, their story did not start with the long -awaited magic of the beginnings. The 38 -year -old dancer indeed said that the love at first sight felt by her companion was not “was “reciprocal“. But the attraction and intensity of the beginnings necessarily determine the continuation of a relationship? This is what Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist thinks.
The feelings of Denitsa Ikonomova have developed over time
It’s in the show 12/45 From M6, which François Alu returned to the beginnings of his relationship with Denitsa Ikonomova – met on the set of “Dance with the stars”.
“When we saw each other, I said to myself ‘she looks nice’, but nothing. And as soon as I spoke with her, at the end of the hour, I said to myself: ‘eh shit’, when I promised myself not to fall in love because it was work, job, job. But there, I was already in love”he said.
For her part, the Bulgarian dancer and choreographer revealed in the media Lou that the love at first sight felt by François Alu “was not reciprocal at that time“.
Despite everything, the one who won the program “Dance with the Stars” four times wished to give him a chance. “It was not love at first sight for me, but I was very impressed and after 2-3 months, I said: ‘Yes, ok, we give ourselves a chance“. Denitsa Ikonomova particularly appreciated the way he had to watch over her.
“”I saw how he took care of me and I thought I knew he would take good care of our child too“She added.
However, can the absence of love at first sight at first affect the sustainability of a relationship? Here are some answers.
“Deep love is built over the meeting”
Love at first sight impresses, as it is spectacular.
“”We feel caught up, as if everything became obvious at once. However, in real life, not all stories start – and it does not guarantee the solidity of a relationship“, Specifies Amélie Boukhobza.
The initial emotion is mainly based on the projection: “We get carried away for what we imagine from the other, not yet for what it really is. Alchemy can be intense, but it says nothing about long -term compatibility, or shared desires. “
Deep love is thus truly built over the meeting.
“”Over time, we see if the person we are can really go on a long way with us. Identify what will not work – from incompatibility indicators – is often easier than predicting what will continue. And when no other alert signal appears, it all depends on the way in which the love story is built “, specifies the practitioner.
That said, even without love at first sight, an attraction remains necessary.
“Without it, the choice of relationship can note other motivations – security, financial comfort, or inability to say no – which do not have a direct link with love. Clearly: love at first sight is beautiful … but what ensures the sustainability of a relationship lies especially in what is built after”, concludes the psychologist.