He may not say anything, will not raise his voice. And yet something has changed. Less smiles, less presence, less of him, quite simply. According to Johanna Rozenblum, a clinical psychologist, certain behaviors can betray a deep discomfort in men as a couple. Unlike women, often more inclined to verbalize their feelings, men can lock themselves in a silence that gives way to doubt. Here are three signs which, according to the psychologist, do not deceive.
His daily behavior changes without explanation
The first clue is often invisible to everyone’s eyes, except for the one who shares his daily life. “”An unhappy man will feel something about the order of lack of envy, in the long term“, Explains Johanna Rozenblum. He no longer finds pleasure in simple things. His mood is neutralized, laughter becomes scarce, his energy decreases.”Man no longer seems to have fun in his daily life. His mood is neutralized, and it shows. He is no longer himself“.
He isolates himself, including within the couple
Over time, this interior discomfort can settle more deeply. It is not that he does not want to speak, it is that he no longer knows how. “”By education or social pressure, many men find it difficult to verbalize around the emotions they feel“, Analysis the psychologist. So when they suffer,”This translates into a real withdrawal on oneself, a real distance from others and in particular in his couple“. This silence, far from trivial, can translate a deep discomfort.”These unhappy men, can no longer formulate, be it their expectations or their suffering“.
Conflicts are multiplying, but without real discussion
When the overflow becomes unbearable, some men are still trying to express themselves. But this attempt can take an explosive turn. “”This often generates conflicts in the couple because of this inability to speak of their suffering“Says Johanna Rozenblum. The arguments then arise for details, but the real cause remains buried. Behind the annoyance, there is sometimes a call for help.