For many singles, summer often rhymes with romance. But it is not always easy to be understood in a language that is not his. So, to succeed in his approach and immerse yourself in the local culture, Babbel, language learning platformand Dr. Aurore Malet-Karas, neuroscience doctor and sexologist shares some key tips to help travelers create real connections.
Respect cultural differences
In some cultures, as in Spain or Brazil, flirting is one of current social interactions: compliments, humor and proximity are well accepted.
“The first approach is often direct, but these are generally light seduction games, for example with sentences like” ME FOR YOU SONRISA “(” I love your smile “in Spanish) or” Você Tem Olhos Lindos “(” You have magnificent eyes “in Brazilian Portuguese)”, reveals the press release.
Elsewhere, in Nordic countries for example, a more subtle and laid approach is preferred.
“In these cultures, we generally expect several exchanges before clearly expressing his interest: an overly direct attitude can be misinterpreted and create discomfort. A sentence like” Vill du TA en fika Någon Gång? “(” Do you want to have a coffee one of these days? “) Is preferred to an approach centered on the physique of being coveted”, Affirm Babel experts.
The goal is therefore not so much the immediate seduction as to find a pretext to initiate the conversation.
Dare to say a few words in the language of the other
Expressing interest in the local language, even with a few errors, can have a strong power of seduction. A Babbel study has also confirmed it: three out of five French people find sexy to date a person who speaks another mother tongue.
“So useless to recite a perfect sentence: a simple” Do you want to have a drink? “Slipped into a hesitant English or an approximate German is often enough to break the ice and make you smile. Whether it is a” Do you want to Grab a Drink? “Or a” Hast of the Lust Auf einen Drink “, the essential is not grammar, but the approach. This shows curiosity, a sincere effort, and often a touch of involuntary humor that relaxes the atmosphere “reveals the language learning platform.
Babbel experts recommend daring simple and effective sentences: true charm is not listed in grammatical perfection, but in the desire to enter the world of the other.
“Do not worry if you make errors in agreements, conjugation or accent, on the contrary, use it to ask for corrections and improve yourself”, Confirms Dr. Aurore Malet-Karas.
A “Care to show around me?” (“Do you want to show me around?”) Can be tempted, because this sentence shows a real interest in the other.
Avoid shots and literal translations
Some expressions work in a country, but will not have the expected effect in others at all. For example, the classic “Do you often come here? “, keeps its side slightly cliché in Spain and Germany.
What may therefore seem charming in French risks falling flat, or even seem intrusive, in other cultures where seduction codes differ. It is often preferable to soften your approach and start with simple subjects of conversation.
For example, in Germany, “It is better to say” Ich War Noch denies here, Kennst du Dich here? “(I have never come here, do you know this place well?), While in Spain, the atmosphere of the place will be rather commented” ¿Está Bueno Esto, no? “(Is it nice the atmosphere here, right?). Similarly, compliments too direct on the physical can be perceived or moved in Scandinavia in Asia, where more subtle remarks on the personality are privileged “, Still underline the Babbel experts.
Learn together
Share a word, an expression, an error: learning a language for two creates accomplices moments.
“”Increasing someone to learn a sentence in their language can be a first approach as well as a pretext everything found to continue the conversation. For example, ask how to toast in the language of your interlocutor during a toast, or try to repeat a local expression by laughing at clumsiness, allows you to break the ice in a natural way “says the platform.
Know when to stop
One of the most attractive gestures is to know how to hear a “no”.
“The culture of consent varies according to the country, but one point remains: the insistence is rarely perceived as romantic. In Japan, for example, it is essential to grasp the subtle signals and to respect the discomfort or the refusal of the other; this is what is called” Kuuki Wo Yomu “, the art of” reading the air “or perceiving the atmosphere and the unsaid”confirm Babbel experts.
In the United States, on the other hand, communication is often more direct: one “No Thanks ” (no thanks) or a “I’m not interested “ (I am not interested) are generally intended to be included in the first degree.
Flirting is not convincing, it is invited. And sometimes, do not insist open the door to a future connection. Elegance is also to know how to slip away.
“One last advice: remember to do a little research on the codes of the country you visit, so as not to commit an odd or make people uncomfortable, because the art of seduction is greatly linked to culture, and what may seem natural for you, can be perceived as offensive in another country”, concludes the doctor in neuroscience and sexologist.