The facts date back to January 2021, in the state of Yucatán, Mexico. What was to be a peaceful evening in a couple turned into drama for Juan N. and his wife Leonora R. caught up in a violent crisis of jealousy, the latter attacked her husband with a stabs after discovering compromising photos on her phone.
Compromising photos found in his phone
On the shots in question, Juan appears alongside a younger woman, thinner and visibly made up. Convinced that it is a mistress, Leonora sees red. In a rage access, she seizes a stabbing weapon and stabbed her husband several times. The cries alert the neighbors, who immediately contact the authorities.
Upon their arrival, the police find Juan bloody, seriously injured. Leonora does not hide his anger: according to her, her husband deceives her. But quickly, the police discovered such an unexpected as tragic truth.
As the daily reports El Diario de Yucatánthe mysterious woman in the photos … is none other than Leonora herself, a few years earlier, at the start of their relationship. She simply did not recognize herself.
A mistake with serious consequences: despite his late awareness, Leonora is placed in police custody. As for Juan, he was transported to the hospital, his days being, fortunately, not in danger.
When jealousy becomes destructive
For clinical psychologist Johanna Rozenblum, this story illustrates in an extreme way what is called pathological jealousy. “”Maladive jealousy is often born from insecurity, a lack of self -esteem and a feeling of inferiority “. It pushes to constantly doubt the other, to interpret the slightest detail as a sign of infidelity.
A permanent distrust that does not arise without reasons. “”This type of jealousy sometimes finds its roots in ancient wounds: abandonments, betrayals, sometimes even outside the romantic sphere, like unstable family or friendly relationships “.
As concern takes over, reactions become disproportionate: obsessive surveillance, incessant interrogation, possessive behavior, even, as here, an escalation towards violence. “”It is as if the other became our property. The slightest message or silence creates a doubt, a tension, sometimes an explosion “ explains the psychologist again.
Getting out of this destructive scheme is possible
But how can we avoid arriving at such ends? First, by identifying the triggers. “”You have to learn to identify what activates this jealousy, to be able to defuse risky situations “ specifies our expert.
Then, a deep work is necessary to restore a stable self -image. Because behind each crisis of jealousy, there is often a person who does not feel worthy of being loved, and who anticipates abandonment so as not to undergo it.