“I believe in myself“, “I know what I’m capable of“…True self-confidence is not shouted, it is felt. Our psychologist reveals the silent behaviors that prove solid self-esteem, far from appearances that are often misleading.
Make your own choices without worrying about what others think
Self-confidence is often confused with demonstrative confidence. In reality, it nestles in the calmest attitudes. For psychologist Siyana Mincheva, it all starts with consistency between our thoughts, our values and our actions. Siyana Mincheva explains: “Know what you want, where you are going, and what is really important to you… in other words: believing yourself to be important for yourself and for your future“.
Being aligned means acting according to your principles, without trying to please or convince. “When we are aware of our values, we know what we are worth. So you have nothing to prove to anyone, only to yourself.“.
Knowing how to say no without feeling guilty
Saying no, without apologizing or feeling guilty, is for the psychologist”the most significant sign of self-confidence“Refusing means respecting yourself and setting clear limits. As she reminds us: “If we don’t listen to each other, we stay stuck. We manage stressful situations by tensing up even more“Knowing how to say no shows that we understand that pleasing everyone is neither possible nor desirable.
Dare to take initiatives
Having self-confidence also means moving forward even in uncertainty. “Agreeing to move forward, to take risks, even without all the answers, is a true sign of self-confidence“, insists Siyana Mincheva. She evokes these inner voices that slow down: “Don’t succeed, don’t be important…“To dare despite these doubts is to grant yourself the right to try, to fail and to start again.
Enjoy being alone with yourself
Enjoying your own company is a strong sign of inner balance. “It’s not about introversion“, specifies the psychologist. “It’s about being aware of your need for alone time“.
A person incapable of being alone”is generally less confident than she could be“Meeting regularly allows you to refocus and recharge your batteries, without depending on the views of others.
Recognize and reject what doesn’t suit us
Self-confidence finally manifests itself in the ability to leave what no longer suits us. “Moving away from what has polluted us already means making a decision. This means that we know how to respect ourselves and prioritize our inner peace.“. It is not running away, but making the conscious choice to preserve one’s balance. Because for Siyana Mincheva, “the true sign of self-confidence is knowing how to take care of yourself“.