We say almost mechanically to apologize, to soften what we feel, so as not to disturb … But trying to round the angles, we show to our interlocutors that we are not so important, that our will is not “up to” … What are these sentences that serve you, and why? Decryption of our psychologist.
“”Sorry” Or “Sorry for …“”
We often start a sentence with these words, even when there is nothing to apologize. It is a way of getting back, minimizing your presence. But by dint of apologizing for being there, we end up getting the idea … that we hinder. Better to swamp “Sorry again for my delay“by a”Thank you for waiting“, Who does not put you on the sidelines.
“”I’m just …“”
Just tired. Just don’t agree. Just a little worried. “”This “just” is a truth of truth. He nibbles legitimacy “warns our psychologist. We sweeter, we plagued what we would like to express. As if to say things frankly, it was already too much. You are not just you, or half a person. You have a voice, use it.
“”I am too sensitive“”
This phrase, often repeated, installs the idea that what you feel is a problem. An anomaly to be corrected. “While in reality, it often reflects a fine capacity to perceive, to feel, to react. It is not” too “sensitive, it is just sensitive as it should be.”
“”I surely react excessively“”
This reflex is often that of the person who learned to doubt his feelings. As if the emotion was automatically suspicious. It is disqualified before having even named it. And in doing so, we are invalidating ourselves.
“”It’s not so serious …“”
Sometimes yes. It’s serious. But we learned to minimize. To compare. To be silent. To say that it is “not so serious” is often a way of forbidden to go see what it really stir.
“”What I’m going to say will seem weird to you …“”
This sentence already says: “I am not legitimate. What I think may not deserve to be said. ” We take the lead, as if to apologize for having a personal point of view. And often what we were going to say was anything but weird. It was just true. And if this is important to you, it matters.
These little sentences nibble on insurance. They install an insidious doubt. We can therefore learn to spot them. And sometimes just cut them. Because we don’t have to apologize for feeling, thinking, or taking your place. So beware of your words, and what you let show.