Talking about sexuality remains difficult, even in 2025. Despite a more open society, the consultation of a sexologist often remains pushed, marginalized or poorly understood. However, as professionals remind you, it is not necessary to have a “serious problem” to push the door of this specialist. Even better: it is sometimes an act of prevention, release, or simply self -understanding. Don’t stay alone with your questions.
A consultation often pushed because of the taboos
Talking about sexuality, even in the privacy of a medical office, remains difficult for many. Fear of being judged, not to be “normal”, or to expose themselves in what is most intimate … These resistances, often invisible, are reinforced by a culture where sexuality remains paradoxical: omnipresent in the media, but also largely taboo in the medical or therapeutic field. So we repel, or we put our questions under the carpet.
For the sexologist Paolo Furgiuele, this hesitation is still too frequent and still rests too much on the concept of sexual “problem”. Far from the real function of the sexologist.: “In reality, many people come to consult not because they have a” problem “, but because they feel out of step with their sexuality or with the social standards that surround it” he poses.
A more human discipline than you think
As he points out, sexology is not only a therapeutic discipline: it is also deeply human.
Born of fights for sexual rights, it is part of a story of emancipation and struggles: for gender equality, decriminalization of homosexuality, recognition of various families, or the rights of trans persons.
“I think here of Magnus Hirschfeld, a German pioneer of the beginning of the 20th century, who saw in the study of sexualities a way of advancing human rights. For him, knowledge was never going without obligation“He evokes. Through his inheritance, we understand that sexuality goes beyond the simple mechanics of the body: it relates to identity, standards, freedom.
A space to say the intimate
Many people consult simply to be able to speak, without fear of judgment or rejection. “”The cabinet of the sexologist then becomes a place of listening where everyone can deconstruct the injunctions of performance, virility, femininity, or even compliance “. Furgiuele Paolo notes that subjects like GPA, Polyamour, Libertinage, or Homoparentality are frequently discussed. So many realities that are hardly visible in public debate, but present in people’s lives.
Signs that we trivialize … wrongly
The Growtherapy site, also recently compiled the often minimized signs, which would however benefit from being discussed with a professional (and you will see that they are however frequent):
- A drop in desire or excitement : often perceived as passenger, it is frequently linked to emotional or relational factors, and deserves to be explored;
- A lack of sexual confidence : the feeling of not being up to par or not being able to engage free to the other can sabotage intimate life;
- Pain or discomfort during reports : Even if they are not systematic, they should never be standardized. Medical and psychosexual monitoring is essential;
- A passed trauma : whether abuse, violence or disturbing experiences, speech in sexotherapy can be a first step towards reconstruction;
- The need to explore your sexuality : kinks, fantasies, orientation, alternative practices … The sexologist offers a benevolent and without judgment frame;
Thinking about sexuality is also doing prevention
But beyond the troubles, sexology also has an information and prevention mission. We talk about consent, contraception, gynecological or anorectal health, HIV, prep, sexual violence, transitional paths … “These are public health subjects that we rarely approach in a classic medical framework, but which find their place here.”
In summary: to consult a sexologist is to reclaim your intimacy. This does not mean that we have a problem. This means that you take care of yourself, your well-being, your body, your emotions. It is an act of conscience, autonomy and sometimes of liberation. To put an end to the taboos is to allow everyone to have access to an intimate, free, and chosen intimate life. This is what sexology, in all its richness, can offer.
“”Sexology helps to think, to feel, to rebuild. This is what, in my eyes, in my eyes a deeply human and political discipline ” concludes our expert.
So do not wait to consult. Whatever your question, whether in relation to your body, your couple, your desires or your development.