Couples therapy, or marital therapy, aims to help couples in difficulty. However, many reasons are put forward by the French to avoid it.Each of these obstacles expresses a legitimate concern which comes from ignorance of the mechanisms of life as a couple and the benefits of support. assures Arnaud Ulrich, co-founder of Coopleo.
The cost of the sessions, the first reason given
According to a study published by Coopleo care, the first platform dedicated to couple care, the cost of marital therapy sessions is the first obstacle. This is the first reason given by women (25%), 30-44 year olds (23%) and 45-60 year olds (21%).
For Arnaud Ulrich, “the economic brake is reinforced in times of crisis but it must be put back in its rightful place: in a few sessions, benefits will quickly be seen and will change the lives of couples”.
The second reason concerns the invasion of privacy
Men, on the other hand, fear an invasion of their private life more (20%). Those over 60 also have the same feeling, at least 19% of them.
The same argument is also put forward by 20% of 18-29 year olds. According to Arnaud Ulrich, “the invasion of privacy is to be connected to the duty of confidentiality which is an ethical commitment of professionals.
The third reason concerns the fear of worsening one’s problems
For 22% of 18-29 year olds, the fear of worsening their relationship problems is also present. A feeling felt more by men, 16% of whom give this reason.
Women are aware of this obstacle, because their partner’s reluctance represents the third reason given for not going to therapy.
Finally, for 14% of those over 60, couples therapy is simply not useful. “The fear of aggravating problems is explained by the fear of the unknown: revealing unhappiness or perceived tensions is scary!” concedes Arnaud Ulrich. “But the problems cannot be solved alone.”