Who said that June was synonymous with idleness? Between your sister’s wedding, your spouse’s birthday, school holidays and next holidays to organize … You are simply overwhelmed. So much so that your memory – and your energy – start to flank. To follow the pace without exhausting, Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist and Podcast Author You told me …gives us some precious advice.
A very busy month
We often imagine that September, with the start of the school year, is the most trying month. However, it is in June that things really get bunched.
“”In June, the end of the year overflows everywhere. Kermesses, gifts for the mistress, end -of -year shows (dance, theater, choir …), music exams, children to recover in all directions, inscriptions to complete, the files to close, the last minute meetings. But also annual taxes and balance sheets. And again, the list is far from over“, Lands up Amélie Boukhobza.
Added to this of course the invitations that we do not dare to refuse: weddings, weekends, school or business celebrations. “”And during this time, you have to continue to run the house, come to work, think of the holidays, organize summer“, continues the expert. Not to mention fatigue,”The one that we have accumulated since January, which we have put aside for lack of time … and which now explodes. In adults and children. Which, inevitably, adds an supplement to manage.“”
Result ? The mental burden reaches its culminating point in June. “”You have to think of everything, all the time, without ever being able to put your brain“, Underlines the practitioner. The tasks accumulate,”While energy begins to miss“.
Mental load in June: how not implosse?
Council n ° 1: delegate
Amélie Boukhobza confirms it to us: we cannot stop “thinking” about everything, overnight. However, we can try to let go and delegate.
“”First, we stop wanting to do everything. We cannot be everywhere … nor manage everything perfectly. Stop a show does not make you a bad parent. Refusing an invitation does not make you a bad friend. Taking care of your mental health is also accepting that some things will wait. And that others will simply not be done. We do the best that we can … and it’s already a lot“Indicates the psychologist.
Advice n ° 2: Anticipate
Then, to put your ideas back in place and recover a little bit of energy, the watchword is … to anticipate.
“”We prepare what can be in advance. Because the mental charge is not only based on acting, but especially on that of “having to do”. So we write, we delegate, we automate“, she advises.”Personally, I love to-do lists: they release their heads. Starting a task is savoring a mini-victory. “
Advice 3: help each other
Another possibility: help each other. “”Create a painting shared with your partner or your partner, a grouped message with parents of students, a drive to centralize the news … Today, there is no shortage of tools. And everything that lightens … relieves“Said the psychologist.
Advice n ° 4: Set times for oneself
Finally, we agree with real breaks, even very short.
“”Not a utility break, like shopping or responding to your calm emails. A real break. For oneself, without objective. Just blow, breathe, walk, savor coffee, disconnect. Because it is in these small spaces stolen from the agitation that the mind can blow a little“Concludes Amélie Boukhobza.