After months of organization, you arrive well on your French Riviera for a week “idleness”. Your program is relatively simple: you only want to sleep, read, and sip cocktails on the beach. Except that a disturbing element came to spoil your start of stay: the famous bad weather. How then to manage this immense disappointment and reinvent your stay? Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist, drives us.
Bad weather on vacation: a disruptive factor
However, he was not invited, but he settled in the point of disturbing your leave. The bad weather, this last -minute visitor, simply ruined the idea you have of this well -deserved break. Because – is it necessary to specify it? – Many of us imagine spending our holidays under a radiant sun, a guarantee of happiness and crazy evenings, rather than under a Breton type spray. And yet, in your situation, you will have to accept this “exceptional” thunderstorm in the region, which only makes rare appearances each year.
“We had dreamed of this week of vacation in the sun. We imagined at the beach, glasses on the nose, aperitif on the terrace … And finally it rains. Each day. Enough to complain, to get angry, even depress. And that is heard! But the disappointment comes especially from the gap between what we had projected … and what really happens”says Amélie Boukhobza.
Indeed, it is not only the bad weather that annoys us. “”We are angry because this moment does not look like the one we expected. What was thought to be deserving. To what we needed. And above all: what we had imagined “, continues the expert.
How to face the situation and find a better state of mind?
In these moments, two options are available to you: staying blocked in frustration – or composing with the weather. Choice.
“” It is not a question of naive positivism, but a choice: that of not allowing an external circumstance to spoil everything. Because the real rest does not depend on the blue sky, but on letting go. Of this ability To take a break, even when nothing goes as planned. To slow down anyway. To invent another way of being good “Confides the psychologist.
Sometimes an afternoon of rain can leave a softer memory than a sunny day, recalls the practitioner. A film under the duvet, a game of cards, an unexpected conversation can change everything.
“Because the weather is not controlled. But what we do, yes. So as much to focus your energy on what depends on us, rather than ruminating the holidays that we have not had ”, concludes the specialist.