While you skillfully hide your body all year round in too wide dresses, in this first morning on the beach, you’re back to the wall. Neither your flaccid skin nor your extra pounds can shirk. How then to try to accept you, in the middle of these bare bodies? Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist, shares us some precious advice.
A body envelope difficult to accept
Accepted as we are is never simple: it is a long and winding path, punctuated by doubts and obstacles. However, you have no years ahead of you to achieve it, but only a few hours today to assume this rounding body that has brought your life. And you have to admit: the presence of the new companion of your best friend – with a perfectly carved body – does not make it all way up. Worse, it revives your complexes and tarnishes your vacation.
“In summer, we may rejoice in the sun … There is something that comes back every year: the look at the body. His. That of others. And the complexes that invite themselves to the party. Cellulite, belly, arms, buttocks … Everyone has their obsession. Too much like this. Not enough. And even those who have” a beautiful body “are not spared. Because it is not the problem.reveals Amélie Boukhobza.
Of course, we imagine that others see exactly what we want to hide. Their gaze weighs.
“So we spend our time getting your stomach, putting the pareo back, avoiding photos. And it ends up spoiling the moment. While in reality … it is often our own look at ourselves”warns the psychologist.
Make peace with its forms: instructions for use
Loving your body does not mean joining a jersey. It just means stopping war.
“Make a little peace with what it is here, now. Accepte as you are. And above all: do not condition everything to this body. There are so much more important things”, Recalls Amélie Boukhobza.
What if we really do not get there?
We listen to Helena. Summer body, too bad you know what / Summer body, I will spend the summer without you …A little mantra to hum.
“Because it would still be a shame to spoil life to please I don’t know who, I don’t know what”, concludes the practitioner.