We are all born with different intellectual abilities. Some people absorb everything in the blink of an eye, others need more time. This reality is like a biological lottery over which we have no power.
In an interview given to the Spanish site 20 minutesthe doctor of humanities and lecturer Víctor Küppers thus reminds us that intelligence “is something that does not depend on us, but is a genetic lottery that requires no deliberate effort.”
On the contrary, deciding to listen, show kindness or reach out to others requires constant attention. It is conscious work, renewed every morning.
What we really admire in others
Our societies tend to put external signs of success on a pedestal: high-sounding titles, positions of responsibility or big salaries. “We admire bad qualities”regrets the specialist.
To understand the absurdity of the situation, he asks a simple question: “Would you admire someone because they are tall? Or because they have small ears?” Obviously not. These physical characteristics arise directly from genetics. He therefore suggests a change of outlook: “Admiring if you are a good person, because that takes effort.”
The magic formula to transform your daily life
To summarize what constitutes the true value of an individual, the expert uses a simple equation: (C+H)xA. The C represents knowledge, the H represents skills, and the A symbolizes attitude. As he details in an article published by the specialized site El Farmacéutico, knowledge and skills add up, but attitude multiplies everything else.
A person who has few qualifications at the start, but who approaches the days with enthusiasm and generosity, will thus obtain much richer results on a human level than a great talent stuck in a closed posture. Your human quality is built in your everyday actions: saying hello with a smile, really listening to a loved one or showing patience.
The picture of the puzzle to become the person you want to be
To move forward concretely, Víctor Küppers offers a very effective visual exercise: imagine building a puzzle. “To do a puzzle, you need to see the photo. And when you have the photo, you take the piece and you can place it. Without the photo, it’s impossible”, he explains to the Spanish site 20minutos.
This photo represents the image of the person you want to become. Keep this in mind to guide your choices. Each reaction, each word and each attention of everyday life then becomes an additional piece placed on the path to a more beautiful and more human life.