Blowjob is one of the preliminaries very popular with many men. However, this intimate moment can quickly lose its magic if certain gestures are poorly executed. In order for this oral caress to be shared, it is better to know some basic rules. Dr. Albert Barbaro, a sexologist in Nice, enlightens us on the mistakes not to make.
Bad placement
Even if the fellatio is above all a oral stimulation, the hands play an essential role in the pleasure felt. Well positioned, they allow you to vary the sensations.
“”It is important to form a ring with the thumb and index finger at the base of the penis to accompany the movement of the mouth“, Explains Dr. Barbaro. Without that, the penis can go too far and cause Haut-le-Coeur. Also remember to solicit other sensitive areas with the second hand: testicles, groin, buttocks … according to your partner’s preferences.
Disgust
Oral pleasure can only be fully shared if it is given with desire. A lack of enthusiasm or a tense mine can cut short the excitement.
“”If the gesture is not imbued with the desire to please, it becomes mechanical and not very stimulating“, Specifies the sexologist. It is therefore better to be sincere in his approach. And if this practice puts you off? Do not force yourself, it may cause the opposite effect: disgust or lasting discomfort.
Keep a monotonous rhythm
An too repetitive movement harms the rise of pleasure.
“”A simple regular back and forth is not enough to increase the excitement. Varying rhythm, pressure, intensity is essential to offer a palette of sensations“Recommends Dr. Barbaro.
Be too abrupt on the glans
The glans is an extremely sensitive area. Too intense stimulation can be painful, even dangerous.
“”The skin becomes more fragile once moistened. Excessive pressure or too energetic friction, especially in the brake, can cause microdées“, Alerts the doctor. Sweetness and delicacy are therefore in order.
Forget the language
One of the great assets of blowjob is the possibility of playing subtly with the lips and the tongue.
“”The interest of this caress is to mobilize different parts of the mouth. The tongue allows you to add an additional finesse touch“, Details the sexologist. However, this very sensitive area must be treated lightly: sweet and circular movements are preferable to supported gestures.
Bite involuntarily
An accidental gesture with the teeth can spoil the moment, or even cause an injury.
“”A bite, even light, can cause a cut or irritation. If you wear a dental apparatus or oral jewelry, vigilance is double“, Specifies Dr. Barbaro. Stay listening to your partner’s reactions and adapt your intensity.
Want to go too far
The deep blowjob (“Deep Throat”) is often fantasized, but difficult to do without training.
“”If you force you that you are not comfortable, you risk high-heart and abruptly interrupt the act“Explains the doctor. If you tempt you, test your limits gradually, but without pressure.
Show impatience
Using your partner that it is “too long” to enjoy can stress it and further delay orgasm.
“”If you feel fatigue or discomfort, explore other areas, slow down the pace or offer another stimulation“, Advises the sexologist. Non -verbal communication is here a precious ally.
Neglect protection
Even if the risk is lower than with vaginal or anal penetration, STIs are not to be ruled out during an unprotected blowjob.
“”Sperm and possible lesions (aphtes, herpes, cuts) can transmit infections“, Prevents Dr. Barbaro. For security measures, favor condom with a new partner and in case of doubt about the state of oral or genital health.
Blowjob can be a moment of intense complicity provided that it is practiced with envy, attention and respect for the limits of each. Taking the time to discover what appeals, to vary the gestures and to stay attentive allows you to make it a fulfilling experience for the two partners.