The time required to recover from a love story differs from person to person. For some, a few weeks are enough, for others it will take several months … even, several long years. Post-Rupture’s healing time would be much longer than you imagine, consider researchers.
A “long -term” love convalescence
According to the famous study broadcast in the newspaper Social Psychological and Personality Scienceit would not take one or two, but almost 4.18 years for the attachment links which unite one person to another have partially disappeared (50%).
A long -lasting convalescence, which is explained by the deep emotional and neurological imprint that partners leave each other.
“”The results show that the persistence of these links is influenced by several factors, such as attachment styles and the maintenance of contacts with ex. Thus, even if most people end up “forget” their former partner, in some people, traces of these links remain and never completely fade “reveal researchers.
A love imprint confirmed by Dr. Mark Travers, psychologist interviewed by the media Psychology Today: “For many people, romantic experiences can have neurological and emotional repercussions for life “assures the expert.
But what does our expert psychologist think, Amélie Boukhobza? Here is his answer.
The mourning process is not linear
According to our expert, Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist, the duration necessary to mourn in love varies considerably from one person to another.
“Obviously, everyone does as he can. There are those who chain the dates from the following week. Those who collapse and take six months to come out. Those who cut everything. And those who spend their evenings rereading the messages … and continue to send them,” just to know “. But basically, it is not so much the time that varies from one person to the other. It is above all the means”, says the specialist.
Indeed, if some are quickly relaunching in another story, “Perhaps to dress, others prefer to be alone, to understand, digest, sometimes even ruminate. And then there are those who go from one bed to another, without ever really landing anywhere “she admits.
Finally, the expert affirms it: there is no good or bad way to forget her former lovers, “There are just different ways. “
And for good reason: “The mourning process is not linear. We believe that it happened … and one day, we fall back. A song. A smell. A place. Love leaves a very strong emotional imprint in the brain. It activates the same areas as addiction. And like any addiction, weaning can be long “.
The complexity of the link must be taken into account
Some studies talk about 3 to 6 months for emotional effects fading. Sometimes more, if the relationship has been long, intense or marked by emotional dependencies.
“The study published in the Psychological Social Journal and Personality Science even evokes more than 4 years to turn the page. But what no study can really measure is the complexity of a link. We are not only recovering from the person. We also recover from what the relationship represented: security, projects, a daily life … We detach ourselves from the other … But also a future in which we thought. Inevitably, require time “, concludes Amélie Boukhobza.