The term celicouple, born from the contraction between single and couple, describes a romantic relationship where two people choose to stay together while living in separate accommodations. Far from being a rejection of the couple, this approach allows you to combine emotional commitment and personal independence. Contrary to what one might think, this trend does not exclusively concern younger generations. According to the National Institute of Demographic Studies (INED), it is mainly 45-65 year olds (22%) who adopt this lifestyle, much more than 26-30 year olds, 68% of whom prefer to live in a household.
Why choose the celicouple?
According to Johanna Rozenblum, clinical psychologist, several factors can motivate this lifestyle choice. She explains:
“There is undoubtedly in this choice the fear of losing one’s independence in the couple or a desire to regain it. It can also be linked to a difficult past experience or simply to a desire to live differently..
Reasons include:
- A need for independence: Some couples, particularly those who have raised children together, seek to find personal balance;
- Different relational models: For some, the traditional vision of the couple no longer corresponds to their aspirations;
- Distinct personalities: Introverted or autonomous partners may prefer to preserve their living space.
Advantages of the celicouple: when everyone keeps their own space
Living separately while being together has many advantages, provided that both partners are in agreement. This model allows in particular:
- To maintain your freedom: No compromise on your space, your habits or your pace of life;
- To preserve the magic of the couple: Less friction linked to cohabitation and more quality moments;
- To avoid domestic conflicts: No arguments for trivial reasons like order or housekeeping.
“L’The advantage of the celicouple is that the two lovers learn not to burden the other with all their little quirks. This allows us to keep the good times and respect everyone’s need for solitude.”underlines Johanna Rozenblum.
The limits of the celicouple: a balance to find
However, this lifestyle is not without risks. It can sometimes reflect a desire for distance more than a desire for relational innovation.
“Its limit is that this independence becomes a new living environment, which no longer allows the couple to flourish.concludes the expert.
For the celicouple to work, it is essential that the decision is mutual and based on sincere dialogue and that each person respects the needs and expectations of the other. This choice should not become an excuse to avoid intimacy or responsibilities.
If the celicouple does not suit everyone, it symbolizes an evolution in romantic standards, where individual freedom and commitment are no longer incompatible. Provided you communicate well and respect mutual needs, this alternative to the classic couple can offer a new and fulfilling balance.