When the relationship of couple vacillates, little know who to contact to prevent the discomfort from settled. According to a study by the Coopleo.care platform, almost one in two French people recognizes that they do not know who turns in the event of marital difficulties. This survey, conducted with more than 1,000 people, reveals an astonishing paradox: if the majority of respondents are aware of the importance of maintaining their day -to -day relationship, they are much less prepared to manage crises. And above all, they lack benchmarks to get the right help at the right time.
French people aware of the importance of couple work
The survey results are clear: 91 % of participants believe that a couple relationship requires constant maintenance. The French seem rather confident in their ability to nourish their lives for two. On a scale of 10, they take an average of 7.8 on their ability to bring their couple to life.
When it comes to taking care of the daily link, this note climbs slightly to 8.1. But it falls to 7.4 when it comes to going through a period of turbulence and dialogue in a peaceful climate. These figures translate a form of autonomy assumed, but also a difficulty in keeping this serenity when emotions get involved.
And it is there that the rub: 44 % of those questioned say that they do not know who turns in case of conflict or tension in their couple. This vagueness in benchmarks poses a real problem of access to adequate aid.
Who are the first interlocutors in the event of marital difficulties?
When a couple is going through a crisis, few French people cross the door of a specialized firm. Only half (56 %) claims to seek external help in this kind of situation. And among them, the majority favor personal entourage.
More precisely :
- 54 % are aimed at a family member;
- 53 % prefer to confide in a friend or a friend;
- 15 % turn to a healthcare professional;
- 6 % consult a professional dedicated to the couple (advisor, therapist, mediator);
- 5 % choose spiritual or religious support.
These figures reveal a clear preference for informal exchanges, with close people. However, as Pascal Corpet, co-founder of Coopleo.care and training in marital council underlines, is not always the most suitable solution. According to him, “Friends and family We can expect empathy and listening but their lack of neutrality and the fact that they are not trained do not make referents to advance in difficulties“.
The observation is clear: only 6 % of French people spontaneously think of consulting a couple of the couple when they go through a complicated period.
Why is it so difficult to call on professional help?
There is a tenacious psychological brake on the idea of consulting a marital advisor or a couple therapist. Fear of judgment, ignorance of available services, but also the feeling of personal failure play an important role in this hesitation.
And yet, an external aid can be precious. It allows each of the partners to express themselves in a secure setting, far from tensions and too lively emotions. It offers a step back, decryption of unspoken, mediation which often avoids conflicts to become irreversible.
But for this approach to become a habit, it is above all necessary to inform, normalize, and recall that going to see a professional is not an admission of weakness, but a mark of engagement. Provided, of course, to know who to contact.