In couples that hold, love is not enough. It is the little daily sentences that make all the difference. “”There is security, regulation. And above all, confidence. Not a confidence that goes without saying, but a confidence that we feed on a daily basis. Some sentences often come back to these couples “, Reveals Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist.
Here are 5 sentences precisely that the couples who love each other are exchanged, trust – and show it.
“You can tell me everything. What’s going on?”
“This type of sentence forces nothing, but it opens a space … without pressure or fear of judgment. She says: You can. You have the right. And just that, it’s already huge”, Recalls Amélie Boukhobza.
“I understand what you feel”
“This sentence does not mean” I agree “, she simply means: I understand. And that’s already a lot. We don’t need to agree to be connected. Understanding is the base of all alliance”, underlines the psychologist.
“We are a team. We face together”
“It’s simple, but it changes everything. Because in two, we are stronger. This sentence says: I am there. In the right times, of course, but also when everything becomes more difficult. She distances the formidable” you against me “, the one who ends up damaging everything”, Note the practitioner.
“Hello. Thank you. I love you. I miss you. Don’t worry …”
“These are little words that we forget too quickly. In damaged couples, we don’t even say hello. Good night … In those who hold, we continue to see each other … and we continue to say it!”, says the expert.
“What can I do for you? Can I help you?”
“Here, the person is in care, in attention. Because love is not only feelings, they are also acts”, concludes Amélie Boukhobza.