This summer, are you going on vacation to your best friend? Excellent idea. However, for this stay to be truly rejuvenating, it is better to prepare for it upstream. When sharing the same roof, everyone’s schedule can be undermined … and tensions are often long in manifesting itself. Here are 6 habits to ban as guest, according to Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist.
Take others schedule for his own
“Holidays with friends or family offer beautiful moments. But everything is not always rosy. We share the same roof, the same rhythm … And sometimes, we push the limits of hospitality a little too far. Some attitudes go wrong … starting with the fact of inviting each other in the timetable of everyone as if everything was around you”, warns Amélie Boukhobza.
Behave like the hotel
This attitude, very frequent in a band of friends (one always stands out for its phlegm, even its passivity) nevertheless remains unacceptable. “Wait until everything is ready and not to offer anything/Do nothing is a reprehensible behavior and generating tensions”, underlines the psychologist.
Forget that we are not at home
“By forgetting this” little “detail, and by imposing your desires, its hours, its music, its noise, there is clearly respect for its host”, warns the expert.
Not be truly present (or being passively)
“Staying taped to the sofa and/or on your phone is a perfect example of an incommensurate attitude”, Note the practitioner.
Be absent all the time
Having a vacation with friends or family comes to want to want to spend (a little) of qualitative time with them – if not direction the hotel. “Indeed,” sulking “the house where we live cannot be understood”, Recalls Amélie Boukhobza.
Zap the essentials: participate
Being invited, implies lightness: “We have to be independent, autonomous, while avoiding inertia. We do not come to line the atmosphere, but accompany it. Because being invited is not just to take advantage: it is also a question of participating, by putting our hands in the dough, respecting the habits of the place and asking others their needs/desires before modifying the plans”, says the specialist.
“”In summary, a stay, even with relatives, can quickly turn into discomfort if we forget the essential: we are welcomed!“Concludes the psychologist.