Difficulty saying no, avoidance of conflicts … At work, it is easy to fall into an infernal spiral where our unconscious guides our choices. For fear of the gaze of others, for lack of self -confidence or simply by need to prove (too) things. Here are 5 unconscious behaviors to be identified to regain control of his professional life.
Everyone is checked “by unconscious pilots”
According to Luce Janin-Devillars, psychoanalyst and coach, author of “Change your life, it’s never too late“(Ed. Lafon) Some unconscious reflexes prevent us from” evolving professionally.
“”Transactional analysis shows that at work everyone lets himself be guided by unconscious pilots “, he confirms.
He specifies that a or two pilots often influence our behavior and our reactions, hence the importance of identifying them.
Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist, shares this opinion.
“”Without even realizing it, certain behaviors can seriously brake your progress at work. Indeed, as the author specifies, be perfect, make an effort, please others, be strong or hurry up, are injunctions, although apparently valued, which can ultimately hinder success. “
Here are some other mechanisms, often invisible, but powerful, that slip into professional daily life and slow down the ascent.
The 5 behaviors to be identified at work
- Never say no. “It is subtle, but saying yes to everything ends up dispersing. Accepting all the missions it may seem commendable, but it can also show a lack of prioritization and, in the long term, affect the quality of the work.”
- Underestimate the importance of feedback. “Waiting passively returns or, worse, avoiding them for fear of being criticized clearly prevents from growing up. Learning to solicit and receiving feedback allows you to adjust quickly and align with expectations.”
- Stay in your comfort zone. “We excel in our usual tasks? So much the better, but by dint of confining ourselves to it, we can locate ourselves. Certainly it is comfortable and reassuring but this attitude sometimes masks a refusal to take risks, to challenge yourself or to seize opportunities for evolution.”
- Too much talk about yourself. “Being constantly focused on yourself, your own performance or successes can quickly tire your colleagues. Leadership and success are also built together, by valuing the contributions of others and developing a real team dynamics.”
- Let the small habits turn into large distractions. “Consult your phone constantly, getting lost in social networks in the meanders or multiplying coffee breaks: all this accumulates and can quickly become completely time -cons. These distractions end up nibbling productivity without any realization.”
You are now ready to perform in full awareness at the office.