Each look, each word, each absence too … When the feelings settle in, we start to ask questions: is it reciprocal? Could it become serious? To see more clearly, the psychologist Siyana Misséa shares five concrete signs to observe. And sometimes it is the details that say the longest.
A common vision: the basis of a future for two
Siyana Milnéva insists on the importance of a clear, shared, but also personal life project. “”It is not only a question of having projects in common, but of knowing what we want in life“. If the deep desires are compatible – whether career, family or lifestyle – this is often the sign that we advance in the same direction.
The fact of speaking openly about the future, without pressure or ambiguity, shows a sincere will to build something lasting. It is a strong marker, often minimized, but fundamental.
Confidence as a solid base
The couples that last are not those who never doubt, but those who know how to trust themselves. “”Live constantly in doubt or jealousy weakens a relationship“, warns the psychologist. If everyone feels free to be himself, unattended or suspicion, it is a sign of a deep and reassuring link.
This climate of emotional security cannot be decreed. It is built, sometimes slowly, but it remains a major indicator of a sincere commitment.
When vulnerability becomes a link
A serious relationship is not only built on good times. It also involves showing yourself as one is, including in its weaknesses. “”A person ready to engage seriously will be able to express their fears, their insecurity, without fear of the judgment of the other“Says Siyana Milnéva.
This ability to reveal itself, to bring down the mask, strengthens the complicity. It creates a space where emotion circulates freely, where everyone feels welcomed.
A fulfilled personal life
Paradoxically, a partner ready to engage seriously is not always the one who wants to share everything right away. He or she is first in his own life. “”This means that your partner does not try to fill a void, but to share his life already rich with you“.
When the other does not wait for the relationship to saves it or complete it, but that it chooses to integrate you into its balance, the dynamics change completely. It is then a question of growing in two, and not to hang on.
Daily shared responsibilities
Love is not limited to tender moments. It is also revealed in galleys, unforeseen events, everyday decisions. “”Sharing responsibilities and facing the unforeseen daily shows that your partner is ready for a serious commitment“Concludes the psychologist.
Distribute the tasks, manage a problem together, support yourself in the event of a hard blow … as many concrete evidence that everyone is ready to wear their share.