You have probably noticed it around you: some people are distinguished by a very frank passion. Whether it is their love for cooking, music, or even Asia … They seem inspired by an invisible force that we can jealous. Seeing them flourish in a specific field can make you want, when your life seems to be punctuated by the obligations. However, believe it or not, these people have nothing “more” than you. They only managed to find what drives them.
Passion is not innate, but acquired on the way
What is a passion in reality? A talent or a hidden gift? An activity started for childhood? Or a new energy that can be discovered over the experiences? Good news, it can be the three at a time. Finding what is passionate about us is not established in advance. This is forged during our path and our experiences. Some have discovered it in advance, and that’s a chance. But nothing forbids you to become passionate about knitting or horse racing, whatever your age. Remember too that no passion is no longer noble than another. You still have to have a bit of curiosity and the desire to explore new things.
Discover what really drives us, instructions for use
You have not yet found this theme that you are passionate, and frankly have to have “this sacred fire” in you? Don’t be so sure. You are not without passion. But maybe a little rusty. In reality, discovering what really fascinates us in life requires an effort: that of daring to experiment. Because passion does not fall from heaven: it is built in contact with experiences and discoveries.
“To find out what is passionate about, nothing better than what is called experiential knowledge” explains Johanna Rozenblum, clinical psychologist. “That is to say to have experiences and then do as a return of experience.”
The goal? With each new experience and take a step aside to “assess” this novelty. “”We try to see if it has captivated us, if we liked enough to continue exploring this path because we take pleasure in it. If there are benefits, if that helps us regulate our emotions or develop our creativity. Or if on the contrary, we take a bad way! “
Do not aim for performance, but the pleasure
This is to know, testing a new activity therefore requires getting out of your comfort zone but also to allow yourself to fail, and listen to. Despite what those around you think. Finally, one last thing: a passion remains a personal desire and pleasure, in which you can excel by dint of practice, but not necessarily.
“The goal is not at all to perform, but it is to see according to what we test, if it comes to activate with us pleasant things or not and if we make a profit” insists the psychologist.
So, like any good thing, it can take time. And settle down little by little. Passion is not always a fire that ravages everything. But a cultivated little pleasure that gives you a smile. And it’s already not bad at all.