Nothing announced the storm. At first glance, everything seemed to be fine. However, some women end up crossing the line, between desire, disillusionment and need to meet. A study relayed by Psychology Today analyzed the responses of 116 women who were unfaithful. Their testimonies offer striking light on the real motivations that push them to deceive. Here are the 10 main reasons.
They are dissatisfied with their relationship
This is the most common reason. 65 % of women questioned believe that their infidelity stems directly from their dissatisfaction within their couple. These are not always symbolic arguments or violence. Sometimes it’s more subtle: progressive disenchantment, loss of attention, the impression of having become invisible. This everyday wear and tear pushes some to look elsewhere for their emotional or emotional needs.
Their partner disengages
For 22 % of the participants, the click comes from a felt disengagement from their partner. This withdrawal can take several forms: an emotional distance, a drop in involvement in the couple, or simply the feeling that the other is no longer really there. Women are, according to the study, four times more numerous than men to advance this reason. The absence then becomes heavier than betrayal.
They want to take revenge
15 % of women interviewed say they have cheated on their spouse out of revenge. This reaction, often triggered by previous male infidelity, sometimes serves to restore a perceived balance as broken. Far from being purely impulsive, this decision is often reflected, and is part of a dynamic of emotional revenge. According to the study, women are five times more enclosed than men to invoke revenge as an infidelity engine.
They are bored in their lives
Daily weighs, the routine tired. 13 % of the women interviewed recognize having cheated because they were simply bored. This can concern their life in general or their life as a couple in particular. The deception then becomes a way to restore a little adrenaline to an existence too well framed. A parenthesis which, in some cases, becomes a regular escape.
They are not sexually filled
Physical intimacy plays a significant role in conjugal dynamics. 8 % of women say they have been unfaithful due to persistent sexual frustration. Whether it is a lack of relationships, an incompatibility, or a progressive disinterest, frustration settles and becomes a silent breaking factor. To be cheated then becomes an attempt to find a form of desire or personal pleasure.
The opportunity simply presented itself
Sometimes there is no plan or strategy. The opportunity arises, and it is seized. Some women evoke an unforeseen encounter, a conducive context, a moment of weakness or curiosity. If this factor is not precisely quantified in the study, it is regularly cited as a trigger, especially when combined with pre -existing dissatisfaction.
They are looking for personal validation
Feel looked, desired, valued. For almost 7 % of women, infidelity is a way of finding a form of recognition that they no longer perceive in their couple. This does not necessarily mean that they less like their partner. But sometimes they no longer feel loved as before. Infidelity then becomes a mirror which returns an image of themselves which they believed lost.
They have feelings for another
This is one of the least cited reasons, at only 7 %, and yet often considered the most “noble” or understandable. Some women sincerely fall in love with another man. It is not an adventure without tomorrow, but a real emotional upheaval. This scenario is often that where deception most often leads to a final separation.
Their couple is already doomed to failure
When you know that everything is over, but that you don’t dare to leave yet. 6 % of women explain their infidelity by the fact that their relationship was already going out. To be cheated then becomes an accelerator, a way of causing the rupture or starting to rebuild something else in parallel, before cutting the bridges.
They experience a relationship at a distance
The geographic distance sometimes creates an emotional distance. For 3 % of respondents, the long distance relationship made the temptation stronger and the opportunities more numerous. The absence of the other, the lack of physical contact and loneliness help to have the commitments made.