The author and relational coach Jordan Gray claims that there are three key questions to recognize a true love. They reveal if your feelings go beyond simple passion.
Do you want to own the other or just his happiness?
At the beginning of a relationship, the chemical reactions of the brain create intense, sometimes addictive sensations. But Jordan Gray insists: “When you really like someone, one, in a pure and without attachment, you feel a deep desire to offer him the best. If you are in partnership with this person, your mission is to help them grow and flourish as much as possible. And if you are not related to it (because you have never been or you are no longer), you always encourage it as possible.
Is your love an intense passion or slow growth?
According to studies cited by the expert, passionate love reaches his peak between 6 and 12 months, before declining quickly. The coach distinguishes this feeling of what he calls “companion love”, which grows over time and settles in the duration.
Will you still like it when the passion will fall back?
Passion alone is not enough to make a couple last. Jordan Gray explains: “So, if you notice that your romantic feelings fade quickly after leaving the initial craze phase, then you were probably only “in love”“.
For him, true love frees more than it encloses. “”He makes the person you love more than he has ever been. He helps her get closer to his authentic self and move away from his masks, his thoughts like “I should” and his compromises“He says.