Despite the sometimes painful consequences of a break, the majority of single parents want to love and be loved again. As a new IPSOS study carried out jointly with Even proves, the meeting application dedicated to them, 80 % of solo parents claim to seek a romantic relationship.
A desire to get back as a couple, which materializes little in fact
However, one in two parent has lived alone for more than two years, still according to this study. And for 26 %, this “forced” celibacy has lasted even for over five years.
He does not hide an absence of desire, quite the contrary: 55 % explain wanting to get out of this status to find the feeling of loving and being loved, while 38 % highlight the desire to share on a daily basis, whether for leisure, discussions, or logistical support. Contrary to popular belief, fear of loneliness only motivates 20 % of them.
Brakes that do not rediscover intimacy to two
In addition, when the question of desire or sex life arises, the brakes are not so physical as emotional. For 47 % of single parents, it is essential to feel better in your body to flourish sexually. 42 % highlight the importance of regaining self -confidence, and as much need to feel valued by their partner.
In single mothers, finally, the link between body image and sexual development is even more marked: 51 % consider that they must first feel good in their bodies to re -engage themselves intimately.
Getting started in a new relationship may seem intimidating, but it often starts with a preliminary step which allows you to analyze your desires and your needs, before daring to reopen with the idea of loving again.
The advice of a shrink to find himself love after a breakup
For psychologist Johanna Rozenblum, precisely, the return to love is neither in an emergency, nor in self -forgetting. It identifies four essential steps for solo parents who wish to retry the love experience.
- Redefine after rupture. “”It is not only a question of turning the page, but of taking stock of its new needs, your desires and its limits. A rupture can be akin to mourning; It is therefore crucial to take the time to reconnect to yourself, without haste “ ;
- Accept his role as a parent. “”The status of single parent is neither a brake nor a defect. It imposes a framework, responsibilities, but can also become a base for a newer new relationship. It is better to clear the limits from the start than to undergo them later “ ;
- Manage guilt. “”Wanting to love again is also to allow yourself to exist outside the role of parent or ex-partner. And this involves acceptance of taking time for yourself, for your body, for your desires“;
- Do not rush into a new story For fear of loneliness. “”Precipitation is a frequent trap. Better to wait until you feel solid and aligned, rather than falling back into the same relational patterns“She concludes.